Fears - Overcome Them
Fears and a Lack of Confidence
Fear is a natural reaction to danger but sadly, many people experience nerves when confronted with everyday events such as a driving test or an exam. In many cases of nerves getting in the way of life, a lack of inner confidence is the cause. And when the nerves are severe, exams can be failed and future promotions lost. You often hear people saying 'Believe in yourself' or 'You can do it' as attempts to boost the person's ability to cope with their nerves, but it is the person's confidence in themselves that has to be strengthened. I have known many excellent drivers fail a driving test because nerves got the better of them on the day, and even high ranking police officers who didn't get the promotion they deserved because of nervousness in the interview. So often, it is the fear of failing that causes them to fail which is so sad, and so unnecessary.
Fear is a natural reaction to danger but sadly, many people experience nerves when confronted with everyday events such as a driving test or an exam. In many cases of nerves getting in the way of life, a lack of inner confidence is the cause. And when the nerves are severe, exams can be failed and future promotions lost. You often hear people saying 'Believe in yourself' or 'You can do it' as attempts to boost the person's ability to cope with their nerves, but it is the person's confidence in themselves that has to be strengthened. I have known many excellent drivers fail a driving test because nerves got the better of them on the day, and even high ranking police officers who didn't get the promotion they deserved because of nervousness in the interview. So often, it is the fear of failing that causes them to fail which is so sad, and so unnecessary.
The cause of the lack of confidence is not always obvious. Sometimes it can be due to childhood experiences, perhaps being told how you will never amount to anything, or your siblings or classmates are better than you, or seem to be at least. Or it can happen later in life when a controlling or abusive partner can start to take over your life, controlling what you do and eventually even what you think. I have, sadly, met many people who have got themselves into such a relationship. It starts off innocently, the partner is always helpful, always there. But then they start to monitor what you are doing, who your friends are. They criticise almost everything you do, often in very subtle ways so you don't realise it is happening until eventually you just do what you are told and accept the wrong idea that you are useless.
How can hypnotherapy help?
Consciously, you know you can do whatever it is you are attempting. You consciously know you can drive well, you consciously know you have learnt enough to pass an exam, but your subconscious has learnt (wrongly) that you can't, so it keeps telling you that you are not good enough and you believe it. Hypnotherapy allows you to relax to the point where your conscious mind can correct the errors in your subconscious mind, and your confidence returns.
How can hypnotherapy help?
Consciously, you know you can do whatever it is you are attempting. You consciously know you can drive well, you consciously know you have learnt enough to pass an exam, but your subconscious has learnt (wrongly) that you can't, so it keeps telling you that you are not good enough and you believe it. Hypnotherapy allows you to relax to the point where your conscious mind can correct the errors in your subconscious mind, and your confidence returns.
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